marriage is not always the easiest. With each new generation, there seems to be new expectations or stipulations. The real hardship comes from making things equal. The man thinks one way and the wife thinks another on how equal things should be.

Marriage is a partnership it is not a one-sided relationship. Husband’s and wife’s need to both be putting in the time and hard work to have a happy and successful marriage.

So then this prompts the question. Would this make my marriage better? and how will I do this? Having an equal partnership in your marriage will help you feel accepted, trusted, loved and respected. Which are key to having a joyful and successful partnership with your spouse.

With some having an equal marriage might be easier but, for others who might not have been raised in a home where there was a happy marriage this might be a little challenging. Having an equal marriage can be achievable through hard work and patience.

Wondering how to start might be overwhelming but listed below are 6 ways to have an equal relationship in your marriage.

Give and Take

This might seem like the basic topic but it is an important one. Give and take helps to overcome the feelings and actions of selfishness if there is a good balance.

You are giving your spouse something so that you can take what they offer in return. Finding a good balance is the key. If the taker is taking too much from the giver then the giver will then eventually have nothing left to give.

Which can create hard feelings towards each other. Finding a good balance where each of you is giving and taking will help you feel loved, respected, and cared for.


Supporting Each Other Goals 

In a marriage each of you has goals you want to accomplish whether that is starting your own business, making more money or getting in shape. You may not have the same goals but that doesn’t mean you can’t be supportive of each other’s goals.

In marriage, goals are something to be worked on together. Do things to help push each other forward be each others accountability partner.

Doing so will bring you closer as a couple. Having individual goals is great but, also find goals you want to accomplish together in your marriage.

A great way do this is to ask. Ask what it is you want to do together in your marriage. Maybe you want to travel or buy a new house. Then figure out together how to make it work.

Having a vision and dream that you both want to accomplish helps you to be better partners because you are both working for the same goal.


Having good communication in a marriage is vitally important. Often arguments happen because one didn’t tell the other what was going on. Individuality and independence is emphasized in society when it comes to making big decisions.

One might think that their spouse in on board before even talking and hearing what they have to say. In a marriage when you make decisions without consulting your spouse does not just affect you but your spouse as well.

Having good communication doesn’t just need to be used when making big decisions but with the small ones as well. Sitting down and talking to each other about any plans you have for that day is a way to start the habit of practicing good communication.



110/110 Rule

A common saying is that marriage is 50/50. Marriage is something that should be equal but it does not mean that marriage is half of the effort of two people. It is not something you do half of its something that you are both working hard at.

In a business partnership, two people are putting in more effort than is required. Same should be applied in creating a successful marriage. Doing more of what is expected of you will show your spouse that you care and are committed. Not only with this better your marriage but you as an individual as well.


If you are not patient you are impatience and in a marriage being impatient with other another can create hard feelings. Being patient is something that today’s society struggles with because we all want things now. We have everything at the tip of our fingers and when situations arise where patients need to be a practice we become impatient.

If your spouse is struggling with questions about who they are or if they just lost a job and are trying to find another one be encouraging and positive. Having patience in a marriage is easier said then done we all have things we get impatient about.

Being kind, loving and respectful of one another will help at being more patience with each other.

Build Up Instead of Put Down 

This often then not is what hurts a marriage. Being put down by your spouse creates hard feelings but it does not mean that it needs to be reciprocated. Constantly putting each others ideas, goals, and ambitions down creates a habit and a wall builder.

To have a successful marriage each of you needs to be positive and build each other up. Be grateful for what the other person did. Be accepting of new ideas and thoughts and be encouraging of one another.

Building up instead of putting down can help you become closer as a couple and can lead to a marriage full of joy and happiness.

Marriage is hard but by creating an equal marriage makes it easier. By continually working together in creating a happy and successful marriage it will bring love, joy, respect, happiness, and closeness with one another.

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Kara is the founder of the Dollar Mommy Club and a full-momma and who loves every minute of it. Ever since she was a little girl (around two years old actually) she has wanted a baby of her own. She even asked her mom for “a crying and pooping baby doll” for Christmas when she was just 6 years old. Certain events took place to where Kara was diagnosed with Endometriosis, and doctors told her that having her own children might be impossible. She spent years trying to figure out her health by trying everything under the sun that you can think of. It wasn’t until a few years after she was married that both she and her husband figured it out, and they were blessed with their first baby girl! When Kara isn’t managing the Dollar Mommy Club and it’s wonderful members and contributors, she enjoys spending time with family, binge-watching The Office on Netflix, and creating art.


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